Celebrations in college are a great way to spend time; No classes, freedom to roam around the campus without restrictions and most importantly, there you are - amidst almost 4000 young men and women; a sample of almost an entire generation that will make tomorrow's trends, careers and aspirations; a sample of population that any social scientist would die for - all out in the open for you to observe. (Not that I am some great intellectual lord to be sampling others for observation. Yet, noticing others around is definitely not new habit for the species ).There is another interesting factor about such days - the fact that there is no protocol to follow.
Think about it - Any institution, whether an office or grocery store or even the gym has a purpose, an agenda for the visitor. You go there for something. For e.g., you go to a college for education (Of course, it is another thing that nothing close to the true sense of the word ever happens there). They give you a class, they give you a timetable and you know exactly where to go, equipped with what and do what at any point of time during the stay. In short, your role is set; So are the roles of others coming there and generally all the roles tend to be alike.
In short, behavior tends to be uniform. For e.g., everyone does the same set of things during a class - either take notes or listen or write. Some might be doodling designs or even sleeping but outwardly, they make sure that they seem to be playing their role - one of a student. Not surprising. After all, this was the point in the very first place - giving similar roles reduces variance in personalities and this makes management easier and convenient. Now, though it might seem a bit drab, this setting works well for many - especially those who get quite uncomfortable in a protocol-less situation; uncomfortable, interacting with myriad characters and bringing out his own.
This is exactly why, occasions like parties or even a get-together for a short while in a campus is a good place to notice the REAL. No one gave a protocol for these times. You are basically quite on your own to do your own thing, your own way and hence, what you end up doing and how you do it could quite bring out differences in behavior.
While I am surely not expert enough to ascertain individual differences, one category stood out loud and clear though - the Gender Gap. I mean, if some alien were to have landed in the Gokulashtami celebrations of my college today..some alien, who is not aware of a concept called 'gender' - he really would have wondered. Apart from wondering why some members had longer hair and were more colorfully clothed, he would have wondered why these members were also visibly meeker, more self-conscious, quieter and subdued than the other group and in fact, more so in front of this other group.
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P.S: Yeah ya..I know. I keep saying I will continue and the thread disappears without a trace. I know. But somehow I have this huge talent for starting at one point and drifting effortlessly to a totally new point and so on, finally having too much in the hands to bring justice to anything. So... well, it is just hope for now that all the thoughts will see light! :) Have a great day..and thanks for reading! I don't know what I am blabbing but it feels good to directly address those who are taking time to read this. After all, I don't get to do it in all the posts. It is usually me playing the role of a typical blogger of a personal weblog - the narcissistic, self-obsessed, opinionated cyber personality in an 'addressing' mode - automatically assuming that a world of people are out there waiting to know about her life, her thoughts and her experiences. Well, maybe for a lot of them, there IS such a world out there. Is it too wrong to assume that we are important? Is humility a cloak for lack of confidence? Oh man, I don't know. I just don't!