(I am not expert at cognitive science or psychology. The following are merely my convictions on whatever little education, reading and experience I have had. If I am wrong at any point, feel free to disagree. )
One of the biggest blunders people make is to go tell the chronic worrier to stop worrying. Eh, I appreciate your good intentions and all that but if he could stop worrying, err..he would have stopped worrying right? I don't think anyone took a penance to remain miserable. I mean, do these well-wishers really think it is that easy or are they simply resorting to the easiest means to fulfill an obligation? A chronic worrier cannot just stop worrying. If it was that easy, he would have done it eons ago. Right? A depressed man cannot 'just cheer up'. An obsessive compulsive thinker cannot just let go.
The pattern is not one that exists only for what we deem dark traits. The same goes for virtues too. A sensitive man cannot simply, overnight, harden up. Perhaps this is exactly why I am always a tad skeptical about inspiration/ motivation speeches. They are great. I mean, they definitely make you feel good and all that. But they can never be creators - they merely serve as catalysts. So, if you are already half-way into planning or doing something, they make you feel good about it and hence reinforce that behavior.
If all of us could discipline our brains to manage time, socialize better, destroy procrastination over simply a few minutes of high adrenalin boost of an amazing orator, then life would have been way simpler. However, what we fail to realize is we ARE our brain. It is not a device in the living room of the head that can be controlled with a remote because it is the device and it is the remote.
Couldn't get more confusing, eh?
I am still nowhere close to being adept at putting forth complex things in a light interesting manner but I will leave those of you who have survived till this part with this thought experiment - Think about this - Is it ever possible to entertain two thoughts SIMULTANEOUSLY? I mean think two things at the same time; Remember, I am not even talking of an interval of a minute or two seconds. At one single instantaneous flash, can you ever have two thoughts?
I hope this puts a lot of things in perspective. Cheers!